Some of What Might Go into Your Decision to Become a Mother or Not

Most women have the capacity to become mothers if they so choose. There will always be some who can’t have children for various medical reasons. If you’re ever in that situation, but you’re sure you want a child, you can definitely look into adoption or other possibilities. 

Let’s assume that you do have the capacity to have a child through traditional means. You’re trying to make up your mind as to whether you should do it or not. There are virtually limitless factors that may go into making this choice, but let’s go over a few of the more common ones. 

You Might Worry that Something May Happen to Your Child 

If you decide that you don’t want to have children, one of your reasons might be that there are numerous dangers in the world. There are car wrecks, mass shootings, and over the past couple of years, Covid-19 has surfaced and claimed countless lives. 

There are more obscure but potentially deadly health problems. Doctors sometimes talk about what they call “talk and die” syndrome This happens to people who sustain a head injury, but all the damage is internal, so on the surface, they seem fine. One minute they might talk to the doctor and insist that they’re okay, and the next moment, they can drop to the floor, dead. 

That’s a rather extreme example, but you get the picture. Some women choose not to become mothers because, ultimately, they feel like they couldn’t bear the heartache if something happened to their child. Often, it’s the more pessimistic individuals who don’t have kids for that reason. 

You May Not Feel That You Have the Money to Support a Child 

There’s an interesting phenomenon that has been in the news a lot lately. Essentially, news outlets are reporting that the Millennial generation, in particular, are not having as many kids as prior generations did. 

If you ask Millennials about it, most of whom are now in their late twenties, thirties, or early forties, many say they don’t want to have kids because they can’t find jobs that pay very well. Many of them struggle to find affordable healthcare as well. 

Some women find that to be the ultimate determining factor in whether they should have kids or not. If you’re of childbearing age, but you’re struggling to pay your bills, the idea of having another mouth to feed might seem nothing short of ludicrous. 

You Might Want Kids, Regardless of These Factors 

Of course, just because there are dangers in the world and some individuals and families don’t have as much money as they’d like, that is not stopping all childbearing-age adults from having children. There are some women who want kids quite badly, and they’re willing to go through with it, even if they’re not wealthy and the world is full of perils. 

These women often seem to have a glass half full outlook. Optimism is an excellent quality for a person to have, and some individuals seem capable of it with virtually no effort. Some moms in 2021 seem to fall into this category.  

You May Have a Supportive Partner 

Women who choose to become moms these days might also decide to do so because they have a loving, supportive partner by their side. Maybe they married this individual, or perhaps they’re living together. Either way, if both individuals want kids very badly, they might feel like they can rely on each other and have a much better chance of raising a happy, healthy child than might otherwise be the case. 

It is true that a woman can raise a child on her own if she is inclined to do so. However, objectively speaking, child-rearing is almost always going to be easier if you have two adults handling everything involved instead of just one. 

 With two parents, one can take the child out for a walk in their stroller while the other catches a little shuteye. One parent can feed the child if the other one is at work or a doctor’s appointment. 

 In short, there are plenty of arguments for having a child and just as many for not having one. As a woman, there is no right or wrong answer to this question. It’s all about how you feel. 

 If you feel like being a mother is crucial for you, you can probably do it and manage to overcome whatever obstacles might exist. 


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