We all know someone who does it all. Has a perfect life, the perfect husband, the perfect kids, the perfect job and her house is always clean. That person seems to have it all figured out and has no problems at all.
That is an unrealistic and wrong perception of what life as a mom is. No matter how it may seem, everyone has their problems, and let me assure you that there is no such thing as a perfect life. On top of being a working mother, we get thrown many other tasks and problems that sometimes make our head spin. We wonder if our house will always stay messy and if our kids will ever stop screaming and yelling. That is just motherhood.
Many times we put upon ourselves pressures that we shouldn’t. No matter how much we try and how early we wake up, we’ll always end up in a rush. There are so many things that we need to think about, there are appointments and options to choose from such as which type of Crystal Vision Lenses to choose from before going back to work, activities, needs and wants of our children as well as the family as a whole that there never seems enough time.
Somewhere along the years, this idea that we should do everything, perfectly, all at once has been put upon us. These expectations of perfectionism and success, that are far from realistic leave many mothers, especially working mothers, feeling bad about themselves and doubting their abilities. They leave them feeling sorry for not being able to dedicate more time to a task or a person.
The feeling of guilt is not something rare amongst mothers. Studies show that 96% of mothers feel guilty about neglecting their kids or their job. That is an amount that is hard to ignore. It’s time that mothers stop feeling bad for not being perfect. It is important that they realize that when they feel like they are not good enough, they’re probably doing just fine. It’s just the idea of perfection that has gotten into us.
With this dynamic and the societal trends changing, more than ever, mothers need a helping hand and a guide on taking a step back and being content with the things they have done.
To work or not to work?
Many women chose to leave their jobs and become stay at home mothers. With the cost of childcare and the amount of maternity leave that is provided to them, that is perfectly understandable. On the other hand, some women do not want to leave their job after they give birth, not only because their job is the provider of their income, but also because they find joy in their work. This is a matter of personal preferences and no one should be judged based on that decision.
Ultimately, work-life balance is an overused term that most of us have gotten tired of hearing. That gives us the idea that maybe by calculating every possible outcome and taking the necessary measures, nothing can go wrong. But becoming a parent is a learning experience. Sometimes you must take a step back and evaluate. You are usually doing most of the things right, you’re just too close to the situation to see it. If you and your baby are healthy and well and you are able to provide them with what they need, you must be doing something good.
Bio
Ujëbardha Bekolli, Mother Works
Ujëbardha Bekolli is a writer for mother-works.com. MotherWorks is a job portal designed to bring together stay at home moms and recruiters. The platform also brings helpful articles in the Blog section regarding mothers who want to return to the workforce.
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